What makes this book unique is that each chapter has a worksheet so that you can learn your listening style and characteristics through worksheets. If you would like to learn about listening and read some books but couldn’t improve your listening skills, I definitely recommend this book.
I can understand my weak points.
My family often says to me “You don’t listen to family. You are always looking at the screen of your smartphone.”
Yes, my family recognized I’m not good at Listening.
Sympathize
What I have to learn is that it’s not good to focus on Logic and disregard Emotion. I’m not good at sympathizing. This is the flip side of my strength, logical thinking.
Logic > Emotion –> Logic =< Emotion
Advice
I always try to give advice even though I haven’t been asked for it. When you talk to me, you don’t want to have advice from me but you just would me to listen.
Criticize
Also, I sometimes criticize when you complain or say some negative things. When I listen to some complaints I want to say there is something you can do before you complain.
I need to understand there are times when you want to complain and just want me to listen without criticizing.
Interrupt and ask questions
Asking questions is not a bad thing but a good thing. Because I want to understand what you are talking about. However, interrupting in early timing is not good. I think it is OK for the business scene but may not be good for my family. When I make some questions to understand quickly and draw conclusions. You may feel oppressed. I need to let you talk first then ask you questions.
Everyone likes speaking than listening.
So if you learn the skill of listening, everyone likes you and wants to talk to you. You can lead the conversation by listening.
If you listen to my talk, I can listen to your talk.
If you don’t listen to my talk, I can’t listen to your talk.
