1. Dealing with worries is important.
from “3. What worry may do to you”
Dr. Alexis Carrel said, “Businessmen who do not know how to fight worry die young.”
This word tells us how bad “Worry” is for us and how important it is to overcome “Worry”.
2. Define problems then decide & act.
from “4. How to analyze and solve worry problems”
A problem well states is a problem have solved.
As I wrote that one of the tips is “Start with an issue” in the post of 6 Tips to create a great idea, defining the problem is important. So good problem definition leads to a solution.
I find that 50% of my worries venishes once I arive at a clear, definite decision; and another 40% usually vanishes once I start to carry out that decision.
And then making a decision and taking action are the keys to reducing worries.
3. Keep busy.
from “6. How to crowd worry out of your mind”
No time for worry!
That is exactly what Winston Churchill said when he was working 18hours a day at the height of the war.
Keep busy then we have no time for worry.
4. Ignore things we can’t change.
from “9. Co-operate with the inevitable”
Henry Ford told
When I can’t handle events, I let them handle themselves.
So don’t waste our time & effort on things that we can’t change. We should focus on things that we can change.
5. Pretend cheerfully.
from “12. Eight words that can transform your life.”
Think and act cheerfully, and you will feel cheerful.
Do we behave in a fun way because we feel fun?
It means emotions come first then actions follow.
This is true.
In addition, actions also control emotions.
If we intentionally laugh and laugh, we will feel fun.
6. Don’t get even with our enemies.
from “13. High cost of getting even”
Let’s never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them.
This is a big challenge for me but it is worth trying.
When we think about people we don’t like, it’s not a productive time.
7. Learn from our mistakes.
from “17. If you have a lemon, make a lemonade”
The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool.
This is the most important lesson.
It might be a difficult part to accept our mistakes.
If we won’t accept our failure, our growth speed will slow down.
8. Make others happy.
from “18. How to cure depression in fourteen days”
Forgot yourself by becoming interested in others. Every day do a good deed that will put a smile of joy on someone’s face.
When we make others happy, we can reduce our worry and get a peaceful life.
However, it’s not so easy to make others happy. Even if we can’t do it, we can at least try to do it.
9. Do well with criticism.
from “21. Do this – and criticism can’t hurt you”
I couldn’t keep people from criticizing me unjustly, I could do something infinitely more important: I could determine whether I would let the unjust condenmnation disturb me.
If we are promoted, successful, or happy, we can be the target of criticism or envy. So it is important to know how to deal with criticism.
And we can easily imagine criticism could be a reason for our worries. The important lesson here is that we can “choose” how to react to the criticism.
It means that we can worry about it if we like or we can ignore it if we don’t like it.
10. Leverage the power of criticism
from “22. Fool things I have done”
If Einstein admits he is wrong ninety-nine per cent of the time, maybe I am wrong at least eighty per cent of the time. Maybe I deserve this criticism. If I do, I ought to be thankful for it, and try to profit by it.
In addition to worrying or ignoring criticism, we can choose to learn from criticism. If we can leverage the power of criticism, it will be positive and welcome, not negative.
11. Take a nap.
from “23. How to add one hour a day to your waking life.”
an hour’s nap before the evening meal plus six hours’ sleep at night – a total of seven hours – will do you more good than eight hours of unbroken sleep.
The author pointed out that fatigue causes our worries so we need to rest before we get tired. Winston Churchill, John D. Rockefeller, Eleanor Roosevelt proved the power of a nap.
The equation is
6 hours + 1 hour nap > 8 hours
12. Relax the eye muscles.
from “24. What makes you tired – and what you can do about it.”
Eye consumes one forth or all the nervous energies consumped by the body.
Our eyes are the most sensitive and intelligent part. Vision processing needs a lot of resources in our brain. It’s similar to vision processing through the cameras used in an autonomous driving car.
So closing our eyes and relaxing the eye muscles are the most effective way to get rest.
13. Close your eyes for rest.
from “28. How to keep from worrying about insomnia”
Worrying about insomnia will hurt you far more than insomnia.
We can’t control sleep but we can close our eyes.
On long flights of 8 hours or more or midnight flights, you will not be able to do business after we will arrive at the destination. Some people worry about not being able to sleep during the flight.
My tip is, even if I can’t sleep, I count the time when my eyes are closed as sleeping. So I can control the sleep time during the flight. This will reduce the stress or concern of not being able to sleep. In fact, I think I can rest by closing my eyes.
Thank you for reading this book review.
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