I highly recommend this book since I learned many things from this book.
For example, I learned who I am and why I don’t listen to my wife and how to improve my skill.
If you learn listening skills, you can earn money and people will gather around you for whole your life.
Output our thought during learning listening skill
There is an “Exercise” section after each chapter.
So after you read each chapter you can output what you learn and try to improve your listening skill based on Exercise.
Then through our output, we learned our thought and recognize what we can do and what we can’t do.
For example,
The first exercise after chapter1 is
Who is the best listener you know?
What makes that person a good listener?
I have a friend and my mother in my mind.
The reason why I chose them is that he and she don’t interrupt my talk and smile and laugh all the time and no complain and make me talk more.
“Why don’t people listen?”
We can learn there are many reasons “Why people don’t listen.
One of the reasons is that we are not so interested in the person. In that case, we don’t listen to that person.
Think about the case when you talk to your wife, parents, classmate, teachers, colleagues, etc. Are you interested in them all the time? Sometimes yes, sometimes no?
Emotion control is the key factor for listening
I learned how emotions play an important role in listening.
When my wife gets angry or complains or critics emotionally, I stop listening. I learned this is because I had to be protective of myself.
One of the reasons people don’t listen is that they become emotionally reactive.
Most of us like to think that we can accept constructive criticism, and on the other hand, most of us know people who can’t.
In Epilogue,
Ironically, our ability to listen is often worst with the people closest to us.
I completely agree and need to improve my attitude. Listening to my family is the best motivation for me to take an action.
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